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The latest on my grandfather’s stroke

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The latest on my grandfather’s stroke and his health is a bit dismal. I am not sure if you follow me on facebook but I have opened up my personal page as public for many of the blog updates as our Four Generations One Roof Facebook page seems to be stalled due to the Facebook algorithm. If you are interested in day to day updates, follow me here on facebook. 

Last week my grandfather had a stroke which didn’t really seem to do much damage. Honestly, I am not really sure how I feel about his current state as he is suffering and more or less in a vegetative state. The stroke slurred his speech a bit but he seems to be back to the way he was prior to the stroke. It’s sad to say this but his quality of life is so poor that I wish he would just close his eyes and pass in his sleep. I don’t have any fun cute stories to share about him for the first time ever. My interactions with him are usually watching him sleep or trying to make sense of what he is talking about. 

My grandfather and his new cat

This picture above was taken in 2015 and wow, he was so active. I remember like it was yesterday taking this picture in Michaels Crafts after he bought flowers for my grandmother. It was this same day, we went next door to the pet store and looked at cats that needed homes. I cannot believe this was almost 4 years ago. 

This was one of the first pictures below that I ever shared on the blog of my grandfather in 2013. 

living with my elderly grandparents

I know many of you started following the blog over 7 years ago due to our unique multigenerational living arrangement and many of you quickly fell in love my grandfather. Needless to say, he enjoyed being the center of attention when it came to my blog. 

my grandfather and his tiny pickup truck

The last blog post I wrote about him was early November 2018 titled, “watching my grandfather die slowly from dementia,  and at that point he was still able to carry on a decent (somewhat mixed up) conversation and he still liked his picture taken. 

When I left his room the day he had his stroke, I said good-bye and told him I was going on a trip to Arizona for work and he perked right up and said, “ok kid, have fun!” and gave me a wink. I couldn’t believe he actually could wink his eye. Then he immediately went back to talking in circles, reaching for the sky and making no sense. It’s like he appeared for a brief second and then was gone. I will never understand how the mind of a person with dementia works. You can find my latest updates on my gramp on our multigenerational living page and follow me over on my facebook page

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  1. So very sorry. Went through the Alzheimer with my Dad, but I was blessed to be able to keep him home with me with the help of Hospice and wonderful friends. Someone shared the following with me–didn’t understand at the time but as time passed I did. You will bury your Dad twice—once when you bury the man he was and will never be again and the day that you bury the shell that held you and loved you.
    You will continue in my thoughts and prayers–you and all those who love and support you in this journey.Sending not only prayers but gigantic cyber hugs.

    1. Thank you for your sweet comment πŸ™‚ You are right about losing them 2 times. My gramp I remember left us about 6 months ago but randomly I see little bits of him now πŸ™‚

  2. I’m sorry for how hard this is on you. I commend you for still going to visit him even though it’s difficult. It’s neat that he perked up for a moment to tell you to have fun on your trip. One of my son’s teachers said her mom does the same thing once in awhile.

  3. Irma Lopez says:

    Jessica, this must be so hard for you. I can remember him going to work everyday and honking the horn so your grandma would know he was home. I’m at an age where I worry for my grandkids if they should have to see me through a long term illness. Your grandpa loves you so much and he would do anything to spare you this but of course he can’t. You have been a loving granddaughter and have done so much for your grandparents simply by being present in their lifes and expressing your love in so many ways. Hold his hand and talk about all the memories you have of him, a grandparent will always remember the touch and sound of their grandchild’s voice even if they cannot understand the words. I will pray that God gives you the strength and peace to see this through. The waiting is difficult but God has a plan.

    1. Irma that is awesome that you remember the post about him honking the horn at my gram! I totally forgot about that!! You just brought a huge smile to my face πŸ™‚ That seems so long ago yet I can remember it like it was yesterday πŸ™‚ Thank you for being a loyal reader !!

  4. I have so enjoyed your stories of your Grandfather. Sorry for what you all are going through. Prayers for comfort & peace.