Prayers for my grandmother – Cancer Sucks

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Sometimes life throws you a huge curve ball and what you didn’t expect to happen, happens. My grandmother has always been kind of a walking health mess. Literally. Ever since she has been born, she has been in and out of hospitals probably a couple dozen times. She has spent months at a time with ailments that I don’t even know how to pronounce or spell. If you follow us on facebook, you may have seen the post about her being in the hospital. Long story short, she is a cancer survivor x2 and has always battled through each and every scare. Her health issues have kind of been in the background these past couple years because my grandfather’s alzheimer’s and dementia took over our lives. I don’t mean in the background in a bad way, I mean, she has always been unhealthy and we have all just kind of lived with it for years. It’s kind of the norm with her. There has always been one thing or another with her health, we just kind of have lived with it and life has gone on.

Prayers for my gram - cancer sucks

The last month or so we have noticed that she has been struggling more than usual with one of her legs. She should have had her knees replaced in her 60’s but refused due to the cost so she basically hasn’t been able to walk for the last 15 -20 years BUT she has managed with walker. The last week or so has been increasingly difficult for her mobility wise. She was having dinner a couple nights ago and ended up choking on a piece of food. She coughed up the food but still couldn’t swallow any food or liquids so after 30 minutes or so, my parents took her to the emergency room. She went in for a swallowing issue and unfortunately, they found a laundry list of issues, one being a lesion on her hip. Unfortunately, the lesion on her hip is cancer and that is why she has been having such a hard time with her leg. She also has lesions on her lungs which were old from renal and uterine cancer but they are now active cancer cells again. They are not sure if the lesions on her lungs are causing the swallowing issue or not so they are doing a Nuclear Scan, CAT Scan and Chest X-ray along with a bone scan, to try and find the primary cause of the cancer. The bottom line, she is 85 years old and of course, she isn’t going to under-go any invasive treatment plans BUT we need to figure out what the deal is so she can be kept comfortable. They are doing a slew of tests today so hopefully we will know more soon. If  you are the praying type, please say one for my gram Grace.  PS. I know many of you are wondering how my grandfather is handling this and needless to say, he is very sad and worried. His brain is kind of all over the place but he knows exactly what’s going on with her and that the cancer is back. Say a little prayer for him too. Getting old isn’t easy :(. 


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  1. Regi Garvey says:

    Getting old sucks and cancer sucks even more!!! I am so sorry, Jess! You, your grandparents and your family are in my prayers.

  2. My MIL used to say getting old isn’t for sissies! Now that I’m older I’m feeling it! I am the praying type and I do pray for your family and your grandpa and now your grandma specifically. She’s still smiling and what a dear heart she is. You are very strong young lady and I’m so happy your family has you to care for them. Blessings to you!

  3. Betty Roark says:

    Sending prayers to your family. My mother is in the last stage of dementia, had it for 10 years, and I am her caretaker at home. She is a sweet gentle lady so taking care of her has been easy. Thinking of y’all and hoping for the best.

  4. Ann Hearin says:

    My prayers are with your Gram and Grandfather and you and your family as well. May He give you strength.

  5. So sorry! You’re getting hit from all sides. Praying for all.

  6. Prayers of Peace and Healing to your Grandmother and Grandfather .

  7. Anonymous says:

    so sad, we all reach the last stages, but knowing she has always had such a loving caring family makes it so much easier. She knows that she is loved and you are making her as comfortable as possible. May Grace enjoy the rest of her days, all pain free! Many hugs

  8. Jessica, getting old is so not easy nor fun. God bless your grandparents – you honor them well.

  9. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I offer the resources of a couple of books that have helped me in my later years:
    Journey of Souls & Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton, PhD. You can read the intro on Amazon to see if they would be of interest to you before buying.

    The love you’ve shown and the care you’ve taken of your grandparents is extraordinary. The example you’ve set is one anyone could hope to follow.

  10. Oh no! Saying strong prayers for both of your grandparents and your family.

  11. Rachel P. says:

    Hi Jess,
    So sorry to hear about yet another hurdle your family must cross. Yes, I am the praying type and tons of them are coming your way, for all of you. I am 71, in reasonably good health, except for some back issues, but “one never knows what tomorrow will bring” was my Mom’s favorite and daily quote. How true it is. I am so glad that you take the time to share your family’s ups and downs. Hopefully it makes you feel like you’re not alone in your struggles. Remember to smile every day, because there is always something, however small, that deserves that smile.

    1. Thank you Rachel! I am trying to get through all the comments and respond but not sure I can get the all done! -ha. Everyone is so supportive so if you have left other comments, please know we read them and are so appreciative!

  12. I am praying for everyone! ?

  13. Hi Jess,
    My heart just hurts with and for you and your family. You have just been hit right and left with such heart wrenching issues. Hai9ng dealt with my Dad’s Alzheimer disease I’ve kept you extr close at heart, but my friend, this is just so hard–you are right–it all sucks!
    Her smile could light up a room—God bless and be with her. I was just thinking about your Grandfather when you mentioned how he is handling this–extra special prayers and thought s for him now too.
    You and your family will be in my prayers and positive thoughts more frequently. Thank you for taking the time and energy to share. Can’t be near you, so sending gigantic cyber hugs along with those prayers.

    1. Aww thanks sweet Linda! Your encouragement and sweet words are so appreciated 😉

  14. Oh my, so sorry about all your family is going through. I am definitely praying for your grandparents and for your whole family for comfort, peace, and grace during this time as well as wisdom for the doctors.

    1. Thanks Jeanine. It’s definitely a pretty crappy time but it will be ok. One way or another, it will be ok. Thanks so much 🙂

  15. Carol Kassanitz says:

    Oh Jess, my heart is bleeding for you and yours. My gram used to face each of her many adversities by saying “We just have to take it”. Out would come her rosary beads and bible. We knew she was in a different place and it brought her solace. With each year that passes. I find that her advice was so true. I have become a praying type and extend my prayers to all of you. May you stay strong enough to face your future.

  16. Bethany Peckham says:

    Prayers from Rhode Island!

  17. Teresa Fields says:

    Lifting you up in prayer. Tis the season of life to care for parents and grandparents. Your faithfulness and help to them is an example to your readers. isn’t easy and I’m sure you get tired, but the example you are showing in serving is good lessons for your children. Hugs and love.

  18. Debbie Esparza says:

    I am so sorry to hear this about your grams. Prayers for both your grands, it all sucks, big time!

  19. Bless your heart. All of you. Life just keeps throwing curve balls at your family. You are in my prayers.

  20. I’m so sorry and saying prayers for both of your grandparents :(.

  21. Your parents and grandparents are very fortunate to have you, and your assistance. My prayers go up for all of you, especially your Grandmother and Grandfather.

  22. Ayrin Harris says:

    So sorry to hear about the trials your family is facing right now. You and your family will be kept in my prayers. Below are a couple Bible verses that I hope may bring you a small degree of comfort. Stay strong!

    So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isiah 41:10.

    Even to your old age and gray hairs
    I am he, I am he who will sustain you.
    I have made you and I will carry you;
    I will sustain you and I will rescue you. Isiah 46:4

  23. Hi Jessica, my thoughts are with your family. My mother passed awa a few years ago from cancer. Located in the liver but I believe it was probably elsewhere. I have been following you religiously because my father, who is 91, will be moving in with us at the beginning of August. He can no longer live on his own. He’s been in an independent living facility but it’s not enough. Like you, I want them around, how ever you work it. I just met with a nurse this morning at my father’s place, helping me get ready for the move and letting me know all about the services available. Renovations are almost complete so wish my luck and I’ll have your family in my thoughts.

    1. Oh that is wonderful Ann that your dad is coming! I would definitely make sure to contact your states Elder Services. Massachusetts has a great Elder Care program and they basically assign a case/social worker to your dad and they help navigate any insurance, personal care, homemaking services and the fee is so small! I am sure every state is different. You can also apply for a PCA program and / or adult foster program where the state will reimburse you for keeping your dad in the community vs. a nursing home. In Mass there were so many programs available that we had no idea about. His primary care dr. should also be able to point you to services as well. Good luck and please stay in touch!

  24. Oh Jess my heart and prayers go out for you and your family. Your poor grandparents have so much to bear. I pray God with strengthen them and lift them up. Old or not this is a lot. I hope all the prayers give you peace and comfort.

    Much love

  25. Oh my goodness–I don’t know why but it seems sometimes in our lives when it rains it pours. I am so sorry you are having to face all your Grandparents health challenges. Growing old sucks! There is just no future in it. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  26. Marcia Lages says:

    Jessica, I’m so sorry for you all! I know it is very hard for whole family to see their olders getting sick. It hurts a lot! I’m not the prayer kind but I do hope you can bring comfort to your grand parents through the love you share. I also hope they don’t feel too much pain. My friendly care for you! kisses ML

  27. My thoughts and prayers are with Grace.

  28. Juanita in OH says:

    Dear Jess; I am praying for all of the family. My heart is heavy with what all of you are going through. When I was very young my mother was always saying “peace is wonderful!”. When I arrived into adulthood I soon began to understand, all too clearly, what she meant. I wish you peace and comfort in the arms of the Lord. Say “Hello” from Juanita in Ohio and may God bless all of you.

    1. I sure will Jaunita! Thank you for all your comments and always such kindness 🙂

  29. So sorry for all your family’s heath problems! I dealt with alztiemers with my mother for several years its horrible! As well as cancer ! Ugh! Prayers to you and your family especially your children ! Hang on to God !!

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