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Finding the Silver Lining in Cancer Diagnosis

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Is there a silver lining in my gram’s cancer diagnosis? Not really. The diagnosis sucks not matter which way you spin it. The doctors released her from the hospital yesterday and she was transported by ambulance to a rehab facility which is where my grandfather now lives full time at the Nursing Home. I suppose that is a silver lining in this entire sad story. My grandfather was so happy to know that he would be able to see my gram everyday now, in fact, just a short walk down the hall from his room. Lets hope he behaves and doesn’t cause any problems. In his brain, he thinks he is still in charge as he was their entire married life until recently. He hasn’t quite processed all this and he is experiencing a range of emotions. My grandmother hadn’t even arrived yet yesterday and he was already in a “time out” from one of the nurses as he was pacing the halls with his walker in tow. It’s going to be a very interesting road having them together and keeping my grandfather in check. I had a side-bar conversation with him last night and explained that he needed to let the nurses do their jobs and just sit and watch. I explained if he doesn’t behave, then he will find himself stuck in his room. He rolled his eyes and reluctantly agreed to be good. 

The silver lining in cancer diagnosis

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My gram is happy to be able to see my grandfather but she has a long road ahead of her and it’s wearing on her emotions. The point of her going to rehab is to hopefully allow the physical therapists to teach her to use her one good leg to manage getting in and out of bed to a wheel chair and teach her how to not use her bad leg (the one with the cancer). Time will tell. As for the cancer diagnosis, in addition to the cancer spot on her leg/hip, there is a lesion/tumor that is pushing on her esophagus and that is causing her to have issues swallowing. The Oncologist is considering radiation on that area and will have more of a treatment plan, early next week. Her Oncologist from Dana Farber amazing and has even offered to visit her at rehab and possibly set up treatments right there where she will be staying. You see this current cancer is caused from her renal cancer 14 years ago. The renal cancer is the primary of this new cancer. They removed her cancerous kidney 14 years ago and while we thought it was impossible to have that be her primary for this new cancer, the doctors have confirmed it is. We are hoping for nothing short of a miracle for my gram so any prayers you can say would be greatly appreciated. 

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  1. Prayers for you Grandmother, and Grandfather. It’s a difficult time for both, and unfortunately, no matter the promises extracted with a Dementia patient, they or we never know how they will behave. I hope your Grandmother responds well to therapy and treatment, and is able to return home soon. I have so much respect for your family in how you share and take care care of each other.

  2. Saying a prayer for your family sweet friend.

  3. I am so sorry you and your family are going through this, Jess.

  4. Michelle Roy says:

    So so sorry to hear this sad news about your Gram. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

  5. I’m praying for you and your entire family. Be strong and remember God can heal everything and answer prayers.

  6. Prayers for you and all your family. I’m glad that the two of them can be together if it is a comfort to them. I don’t know how you hold up under all this stress. Blessings to you for all you do for your grandparents.

  7. I am continuing to pray for you all. If God doesn’t heal this side of heaven, I pray that your grandparents know Jesus, the God who promises complete healing in heaven and a new body, not to mention no pain, suffering, or tears. On a side note, and I hate to bring this up, but I hope your grandparents have a living will. My grandmother didn’t, and the doctors gave her a feeding tube, even as she was crying out in pain all the time from back cancer. It was terrible, and I promised myself to at least warn people that a feeding tube can keep a person alive long after they want to be alive. You all are in my thoughts and prayers daily.

  8. Terri Hughes says:

    With a cancer diagnosis and having to go to a nursing home…WOW. And just look at the sweet smile on your grandmothers face….PRICELESS. Your grandparents and your whole family are still in my prayers. I know this is VERY hard on everyone. But, put ALL your worries and cares in GOD’S hands and he will take care of things. No matter how hard it is to let go, you don’t want to see them suffer. I have been in your shoes and I know how hard it can be. Try to make the best of the situation. Prayers going up. God Bless you all.

  9. Your grandmother’s sweet smile is totally endearing, and I know the people who care for her much be captivated by it. After all these years together, it is a blessing she and your grandfather can be together more, even though it may be complicated. 🙂 I pray you will see God’s faithfulness even in the midst of this difficult time.

  10. This is a difficult blog to read today. The one good thing is that they are together at this very tough time. How old are your grandparents? How long have they been married. My Dad and Mom were both in the hospital and rehab at the same time and Dad would push his drip bag along with him as he made his way down the hall to visit my Mom. I remember seeing him sitting by her bed and holding and patting her hand to comfort her. Your grandparents are blessed to be together thru these very hard times. I cannot imagine the heartbreak your family is experiencing, but know that your “friends out here” are praying for you and your family to be comforted.

  11. Juanita in OH says:

    I hope your Grandparents will be happy to be closer to each other. Is my assuming that you will have to tell your grandfather every time you see him to behave himself a foolish thought? My prayers are fervent and for all of you…I know how trying all of this is. God bless.

  12. Absolutely praying for your whole family.

  13. That’s good it will be easy for your grandfather to be able to visit your grandmother. I’m sure it’s hard for him to not be in charge anymore, and hopefully he will just be able to enjoy your grandmother’s company. I’m praying for all of you.

  14. It was so sad to read this post but your Grams smile made me smile too! Praying for all of you.

  15. Prayers continue. Still love your Grandma’s beautiful smile. May God put His loving arms around all and give you peace, comfort, and strength.

  16. I’m glad that your grandparents will be able to see each other more frequently. I’m praying for both of your grandparents. You are an amazing granddaughter and I know they are both proud of you.

  17. Karen Mullins says:

    Prayers for your gram and gramps and your whole family. I know how rough it is to realize they’re not always going to be around. May God keep you all in His care.