A few weeks ago I shared part 1 of “how to live with your parents“. Your comments were funny and very sincere. It’s amazing how many of you are thinking about living with your parents and how many of you parents, are already living with your grown kids. Multigenerational households are on the rise and most of what makes our situation work is the ability to create private spaces under one roof. Respect and privacy are the key ingredients to a multigenerational home.
Give and Take
Like any relationship, I have learned that living with my parents is all about give and take. Now of course, you throw my grandparents in the mix and there is a slew of issues that arise but for the most part, you have to be willing to give up a little. I have learned that my mom needs her space sometimes to just do her own thing. She needs her down time which requires people to just “leave” her alone. My husband is very similar. Hopefully my mom doesn’t read this post……..she is going to kill me for sharing this goofy picture! I was trying to teach her how to make the kissy face. She didn’t really like that pose :).
Learn to say nothing
I have learned to say nothing. What do I mean by that? I have learned that if something makes me mad or makes me want to pack up and leave, I say nothing at first. I know that I tend to be hot tempered and quick to speak up, much like my grandfather, so I “try” to say nothing initially. I don’t let things go that upset me, I definitely speak up and I most certainly communicate my thoughts but I have learned, saying nothing at first usually has a better outcome in the end. Does that make sense? It’s hard though! I try to pretend I have duct tape over my mouth…… 😉
Don’t invade their space with your stuff
Because we have created multiple living areas under one roof, I have learned that invading their space with my (our) stuff is not cool. My dad could careless but it drives my mom crazy. I can’t say as if I blame her. I go crazy when my husband comes home and dumps is crapola all over the kitchen island and in two seconds, destroys a clean kitchen that took me an hour to clean. For the most part, we don’t invade each others spaces. It’s that simple rule of common curtesy and respect. If any of you live with your parents, I would love to hear your take on this topic! Be sure to also check out our article on our generational differences. There is a huge gap between my grandparents who grew up in the depression and my son who lives in the age of social media and electronics.