Getting a little philosophical today. This is a rarity for me but multigenerational living has taught me so much about me! Almost 6 years ago when we moved in with my parents, never did I think about how different or alike we were. Prior to moving back home with my parents, I had lived at college, graduated and started a career. I was living on my own, married and taking care of a young child.
Here is where we lived prior to moving in with my parents in 2008.
Life seemed so different then now that I look back. My relationship with my parents has always be exceptionally good but I didn’t know them “then” like I do now.
What I mean is, when you live with your parents as a child, you see them one way but if you have the opportunity to live with them as a middle aged adult (I can’t believe I just said I am middle aged, that sounds so weird!), you begin to seem them as “other adults” and as “a friend”. This picture of me as a kid makes me laugh :).
You begin to see them as individuals who have emotions, feelings and legitimate ideas. They are like “you” or really, you realize ………”you” are like them.
I see lots of things in my mom and my dad where I say to myself, “hey, I did that a few years ago or hey, that’s how I felt.” Living with them as well as my grandparents has made me realize where some of my “issues” and “qualities” come from. ha. My dad and I are so much alike it is scary. Even more scary, I’m like my grandfather! ha. The three of us will be awake at 3am together with our heads spinning about what projects we are doing and getting them completed. Our minds do not shut off when we are in the middle of a renovation or project. It’s scary how the three of us are alike. My mom is much more easy going then me but we certainly share the sensitive and caring quality to help others. Clearly, we all inherit pieces of our bloodline but not until I was older and now living with my parents and grandparents has it come full circle where I realize, “gee, there really is something to heredity.” I’m not talking about inheriting high cholesterol or diabetes, I’m talking about your sense of “self” and who you are as a person. Multigenerational living definitely has taught me a lot about family and the importance of sticking to together. I often wonder if I didn’t live in this multigenerational household, would I have ever figured out these things about myself?