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Heaven Gained Another Angel, RIP Sweet Gram

Heaven gain another angel, my sweet gram. On the eve of Thanksgiving at 10pm, my gram passed away. As many of you know, she had stage 4 lung and hip cancer (which had originated from her Kidney Cancer 15 years ago) and had been living the past 5 months in a nursing home down the street from our house with my grandfather. It’s so hard to believe she is gone but for me, I am very thankful she has left this earth and is now pain free with her family and friends living in heaven. It’s been a bit of a whirlwind this past week. We spent Thanksgiving morning at the Funeral Home making arrangements for next week and then some how, I pulled together a Thanksgiving Dinner that my parents, my family and my grandfather had at our house later in the day. 

grandparents + food + winter

This is my personal Facebook post from last night that I shared with family and friends.

Getting that phone call at 10pm, Wednesday night I knew. I knew before I even answered the phone. The Nursing Home had both my cell and my dad’s cell phone as emergency numbers and I often wondered, who would get the call. Me or my dad. I remember going in to wake up my dad and mom to tell them the nursing home had just called. My dad say straight up in bed and said, “she died!?” He was sound asleep and while we knew her time was coming to end, we didn’t think it would be this soon. The Hospice Nurse had indicated possible days to weeks earlier in the day but you just never know. We are SO thankful it didn’t drag out. She was in and out of consciousness the Wednesday before Thanksgiving and everyone in the family got see her and she knew we were all there. Unfortunately, her sisters from Vermont didn’t make it, they were due to arrive Thanksgiving Day. I was the last one to leave the nursing home at 8:30pm Wednesday night and I kissed her and told her to have a beautiful sleep and she kissed my cheek. Little did I know, that would be the last time I saw her alive. 1.5  hours later, she was gone. I am sad she was alone during that time but apparently, that’s how it was suppose to happen. My dad and I headed back to the nursing home at 10:45 pm, woke my grandfather up from a sound sleep (yes that was interesting….he has severe dementia so he is REALLY out of it in the night time). My dad gently tapped him and told him “Maw had passed.” My dad always called my gram, “Maw.” His big hazel eyes bugged out of his head and he said, “No.” We got him up, wheeled him down to her room and he sat with her for a while in disbelief. I wasn’t sure he would even remember it in the morning. It felt like a bad dream to me and I have most of my marbles -ha. He did remember a little the next morning but just pieces. Next week we will say good bye to the sweetest gram ever.
You will see scheduled posts pop up in your inbox throughout today and the weekend with regard to Black Friday (this post went live an hour ago), Sales and shopping codes as I had written most of them prior to what happened to my gram.
Black Friday + Weekend Sales Shopping Codes
It feels kind of weird sharing stuff on my blog about Black Friday considering what happened to my gram but she would tell me to “knock it off Jessie, do your job and continue to work.” That is exactly what she would say. I can hear her voice telling me that as if she was sitting next to me right now ;). 

Comments

  1. Bethany says

    My condolences to you and your family. I hope all remembering all the good times help to ease the pain. Warm hugs from Rhode Island.
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  3. Cynthia Spurlock says

    I am so sorry! I will be praying for that special peace that passes all understanding for you and your family.
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  4. Marcia says

    Jessica, I'm really sorry for you and your family, specially your granpa. But as you've said... she is no longer suffering and that's surely a relief for all of you! Heaven is probably hosting her welcome party, as she seems to be a happy, kind, dedicated person! kisses ML
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  5. Gail says

    I am so sorry for you and your family Jess. As you said, your wonderful Gram is at peace and pain-free. My heart goes out to your Grandfather. I hope he will be able to get through this very stressful time. My prayers to all of you.
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  6. Crystal says

    I was so sad to see this pop into my inbox- I lost both of my grandparent 2yrs-apart, both on each yrs. Thanksgiving Days & the holiday will forever be changed for you. It has been a bittersweet day for us for the years following as their loss seems at time to be glaring at us the most when we want to just be giving thanks for our blessings. It's a difficult thing to work through & I pray the God gives each of you exactly what you need to get through this time as best as you possibly can. My grandparents lived w/my family most of while I was growing up as well & life without them leaves a hole that is very hard to fill. My heart truly goes out to all of you. Your family has been in my prayers daily & will continue to be- Sending you a hug across the many miles between us & sharing tears with you as well. I have always loved the posts that included your grandparents & will certainly miss the ones featuring your gram! She reminded me so much of my own grandmother & ALWAYS made me smile (& often times lol too) My grandfather followed a very similar path to the one that yours is on & will very much be in my prayers still as well. Dementia is SO. DANG. HARD! Harder on us I think than them sometimes- but knowing that doesn't make it much easier- May You all feel God's loving embrace just a little bit tighter when you need it the most right now-
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  7. Skt4me says

    Am so sorry for your loss! You are so fortunate to have her involved in your life all these years and in your son’s life too! I have enjoyed reading about her. Please continue to share your remembrances with so many of us, who feel like we knew her just a little bit!
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  9. Toni says

    I’m so sorry for your family and I too feel your loss. I send Blessings to you and your family and ask God to give you all the strength to get through these very difficult days. Please tell your grandpa that I’m sending him special Blessings.
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  11. Bonnie says

    Jessica, I realize that this must have been a really hard post to write. Thank you for sharing with us the news about your grandmother so that we can send our thoughts and prayers to you and to your family.
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  12. Terri Hughes says

    Jessica, so sorry to hear the sad news of your grandmother passing. It is always hard when someone passes away, especially, during the holidays. It's hard to let go, but it is comforting to know that they are not in pain and suffering. Like you said, your grandmother is in heaven with God. She had a special Thanksgiving this year. Praying that God will give you and your family, especially your grandfather, strength and comfort, through the coming days. You will always have special memories of your grandmother and she will always be in your heart. She is at peace. God Bless and comfort you and your family. Continued prayers. ''RIP GRAMS"
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