When I started this blog almost 6 years ago (I can’t believe it will be 6 years this August!), it was meant to keep friends and family updated on what life was like living with my parents and grandparents, our house renovations to keep the peace and privacy for all involved and funny little stories that happened along the way. I always thought it would be kind of cool to look back and have an online journal of our life living as a multigenerational family under one roof. What I didn’t anticipate were the 2am shenanigans due to dementia and alzheimer’s.
I want to remember some of these moments that happen because as much as I hate to admit it, my grandparents will be gone someday and I don’t want to forget the moments of laughter that this insane disease has caused. I would like to forget some of the “not so funny” moments so I try to keep the funny memories alive in my memory. It’s really the only thing you can do to deal with this disease is to keep the humor alive. Otherwise, we may all end up in the looney bin.
Thankfully (so far), my grandfather finds himself equally as funny when he does things that are completely “crazy.” My mom keeps a baby monitor on her night table at night as my grandfather tends to roam around and doing silly things. My mom heard him a couple nights ago having a conversation with someone in the bathroom at 2am so she went to check on him and he was attempting to shave and get ready for work.
My mom said, “Fred, it’s 2am, lets go back to bed.”
He giggled and said, “well what the heck and I doing in the bathroom shaving then?”
My grandfather requires 24/7 care now and that includes getting dressed and showering. When I am on “gramp duty”, I usually hang outside the bathroom door and direct him to the shower and once he is in the shower, he pulls the curtain and then I hang outside the curtain and help facilitate the shower head.
A couple of nights ago, he was in the hallway looking for the shower and ended up in his bedroom and he looked at me said, “Jessie, the shower isn’t in here.”
I laughed and said, “I know, it’s in the bathroom, this is your bedroom.”
He said, “come on Freddie O’l boy…….get with it!” He is pretty funny when he pokes fun at himself.
Last week he was taking a shower and said, “well kid, this is a long way away from you sitting in the barn watching me work when you were little.”
I said , “no kidding!”
He said, “I do some pretty funny things now don’t I.”
I laughed and said, “yes gramp, you sure do.”
He busted out laughing and said, “I am THAT crazy old person now that I use to think I never would be.”
My gram gets so disgusted with him when he gets the rooms mixed up.
I have to laugh at her because she has no patience with him and I said to her the other day, “gram, what’s going to happen when you both are mixed up together looking for rooms?”
She rolled her eyes at me and said, “Jessie, I better die before that happens.” -haha.
One thing I have learned from this entire ordeal is, you can’t really take this stuff too seriously. You kinda just gotta role with it. Don’t get me wrong, I have my moments where I get upset because it seems so surreal to see what’s happening but it’s usually when it’s “that time of the month!” for me . -haha. You know, those woman hormones are a pain in the butt!! 😉
Time has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. Living in a multigenerational home with my parents and grandparents has made me think a lot about life, death and what happens next. Chalking this one up to another chapter in our dementia diaries series.